Let’s GOSSIP!
This is an interesting thought that I had which is worth
looking upon.
So out of the many, many reasons why people may gossip, one
of them is the lack of courage to have a dialogue.
So basically, I was in this situation where I was stuck in a problem.
The problem was that I couldn't put my point across to certain people who were in
authority.
I wanted to have a talk; a dialogue with them to clear the air, but something
just did not allow me to do that. I kept on playing and replaying scenarios in
my head of having that talk, but in vain.
When thoughts keep on building up there has to be and
explosion, how long can you keep something built up inside? There has to be a
place where we need to let it out and set ourselves free, and it finds its way
in the form of gossip.
So in my defence I can also say , “ But I was looking for
advice.” Really? From how many people? And how much more confusion did that
create for me?
When one advice does not suit you, we generally look for a
second and a third, until we find someone who tells us what we want to hear.
And that’s how all the gossip gets created. From one person to another and a third, until everybody knows parts and pieces of your story and it turns into a game of Chinese whispers.
There were two things require
1) To have the courage to have a dialogue, speak my mind
2) To focus on outcome and not the complain factor
1) To have the courage to have a dialogue, speak my mind
2) To focus on outcome and not the complain factor
Sometimes it is nothing more than just the lack of courage.
Questions like, “what will the person think of me? What will be the outcome?
What if there is a misunderstanding? What if I offend him or her?” And there is always, “ok I will do it
tomorrow”, are all just distractions.
The way to free oneself of the torture, confusion, the
gossip and no solution is, not to let all these questions bother you, but to truly see for
yourself what makes you feel lighter.
Would it be lighter for you if you had
that talk? Or would it be Heavy?
And if it is light, you just have to pick yourself up with
courage and have the talk.
Don’t keep pushing it to tomorrow.
Ask:
Would it create more ease in our relationship if I had this
talk? If the answer is yes
Ask:
What would it take for me to have this talk with absolute
ease?
What would it take for this talk to create more ease and space
for both of us/all of us?
Feel the energy of this. Does it create lightness for you? Then
you must have the talk.
More on Don't loose Focus tomorrow.
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