I AM RIGHT!

I AM RIGHT!

In our society where there are so many parts and people in a family, competition is something that keeps coming up. It is a place where a lot of us feel unwanted at times, ignored at others and wronged at so many others.

If we really look at it differently though, what is really going on?

This is a true story about a typical family, two brothers, their wives children and the in laws. The typical scenario is where one daughter in law feels like she does not get any attention, that the family is partial and all the attention and love is given to the other.

What is really happening in her world here? A lot of things, there is a feeling of being ignored, she’s feeling miserable, is hurt, feeling less and also competition.

Competition?

A competition in the family is where someone is right and someone is wrong and everyone is trying to be right, instead of sorting it out. Funny one but true.

So basically this is how it goes:

Upset (I’m feeling sad, bad, angry etc..)

Leads to justification (because of this, or that, I am feeling this etc..)

Which basically is you trying to prove your point, trying to be RIGHT and hence you are competing because you do not want to be wrong.

In the whole process we do not realize that what we are doing, is creating more crap in our own universe because we are continuously trying to prove we are right.

So the cycle of upset=justification= competition= more crap does not end

Would you like to break this cycle now?

So lets adopt a new formula here. Nip the problem in the butt. When the feeling of upset shows up instead of going into the whole self pity mode of I am wronged, see how bad they are , how good I am, announcing to the world how crappy your life is because of somebody else, what if you could just look at the feeling and say STOP and ask

What is really going on here?

What is the awareness that I’m getting?

What would I like to choose?

When you start functioning from choice, instead of lack answers start showing up.

Ask yourself

How do I handle this?

Lots of answers may come up for example,

"I can have a talk with them", or an awareness that, “ I’m just trying t be right, so let me just stop doing that and free myself", or “ I cant see the value of me hence they don’t value me.’

It could be anything, but what is true for you makes you feel light and go with the awareness that makes you feel lightest, and then put it into application.

So if you get the awareness have a talk, go ahead and talk, if it is to see your own value, start to value yourself. Whatever it is, start choosing rather than getting stuck and creating more upset.

This is the exercise for today some more insight into this in part 2 tomorrow.

BE YOU…. BE TRUE

~ Storyteller- Aarti Asrnai