Sunday, July 24, 2016

Your Fight against Time - STOP DOING START BEING




It’s been a long haul. Been caught up, as well as had too many things to discuss with you so was left wondering where to start.

That is what exactly prompted me do write this post today.

STOP DOING & START BEING.

Recently I did my 2nd body class with the amazing Kass Thomas, one of the things that really started shifting for me post that, is this constant need to keep doing, rather than being.

What does that really mean now?

Well for me, I have been a person who loves, absolutely loves to keep doing things. I cannot stay still. Its not just that but I also love doing different things. I could be working on my workshops, planning a holiday, updating my social media skills, reading a book, and planning a party or whatever else. I have to have many things to do.

Wow! Some may think, and yet others may feel what’s wrong with that?

Nothing really. It's great that I love to do different things. The only problem is, in the DOING at many times, “I” get lost and stop, “BEING”.

So my question to you is, in the DOING do you get lost and stop BEING??

I have been using this magic daily. Just a simple question, am I doing? Or am I being? and this has really brought more ease into my life.

When I’m doing I just want to get things done. Have classes, write articles, design graphics posters, meet people and more. Just do do do, and then do some more.

The crazy about doing things was an underlying fear, that I don't want my life to be a waste, I want to do something. But what I also realised that what is the point of all the doing, if I'm actually not being there. 

When I’m being, I do get things done, do everything I want, and there is a sense of joy. I am present, I’m not worked up, I’m having fun and I get done, what matters the most. I don’t judge or punish myself for not using up my time constructively and I don’t judge me. I enjoy everything. I am not racing against time, people or circumstances. I allow myself to do the things I want without any projections and expectations.

One of examples is, the shift I have had with my son. Earlier when I was just doing it would be a daily battle of balancing my work, him, his schedule and other responsibilities. There would be a constant restlessness of wanting to finish one thing and move on to the next. Waiting for him to finish his dinner and sleep so that I could get back to work. 

This has changed. Now I am present. I am present when he comes back from school. I am present while making him study and I am present doing my own work. This presence is what has changed and I feel so good. Now I don't miss out on the moments I spend with him, I relish his innocence, his questions and his playfulness because I am not racing against time trying to get the next thing done.
Time is no more how many things that I get done, but the joy I experience in doing those things. I have let go of my fear of wasting time. 

It’s a whole new world. In the whole process of being, I'm also rediscovering myself, things I would like to do, people I would like to be with, classes I would like to hold. It has also helped me to get out of other peoples realities and expectations of me. I'm loving this new journey of being present.

If you are anything like me, someone who loves to keep busy. Just stop and ask yourself in the mad rush of things

Am I doing? Or am I being? it will open a whole new world for you.

Be you. Be true. Be awesome.

~Storyteller- Aarti Asrani


Wednesday, June 1, 2016

SOMETIMES I JUST WANT TO GIVE UP




SOMETIMES I JUST WANT TO GIVE UP


Everything is the opposite of what it appears to be, nothing is the opposite of what it appears to be.

Doesn't make sense right?

There are so many, many things in life that just don’t make sense, and life itself at times does not make sense.

And in order to find sense and logic in things, we get so caught up, that we want to give up, because your definition of  what life should be does not match reality.

The biggest hitch that keeps us in that vicious circle is the question WHY?

Why did this happen to me?
I worked so hard, Why did I not get that job?
Why did he leave me?
Why do my parents not understand me?

Why? Why? Why?

We get so stuck in the issue, in the problem, or just in a state, and trying to make sense of it by asking why doesn’t ever help. It’s like having a puzzle with different pieces that don’t fit together.

And at other unfortunate times, we just feel, what is really the point of going on, or living?

This is the most defeating yet the most crucial moment. No matter how big the problem may be, that moment when you wan to give up on your life

STOP. 

Take a moment. And it may not make any sense to you but keep repeating

Everything is the opposite of what it appears to be, nothing is the opposite of what it appears to be.

Everything is the opposite of what it appears to be, nothing is the opposite of what it appears to be.

Everything is the opposite of what it appears to be, nothing is the opposite of what it appears to be.

Keep doing this till the feeling of giving up lightens.

What I would like to bring to you attention here my dear friend, that we only look at things from our limited perspective, from the feeling of hopelessness, and despair. It is not like that. Everything is the opposite of what it appears to be and yet nothing is opposite of what it appears to be in our eyes.


Give yourself, the situation the universe some TIME, and by time i don't mean days on end. Its that moment when you want to end everything, engulfed in those feelings, give yourself a little more time. I say this because that feeling of powerlessness and pity WILL PASS. Because its nothing but just a feeling, and feelings can change. Moments can change, nothing is forever. 

so when you are engulfed with this feeling of hopelessness, of wanting to give up, of throwing in the towel?

Keep saying
Everything is the opposite of what it appears to be, nothing is the opposite of what it appears to be.

While you say that, you have already started to change the energy of the situation. You have already started to make a different choice. And this choice is what will create a different reality for you.

Choice Creates

BE YOU. BE TRUE. BE AWESOME

 ~ Storyteller Aarti Asrani

Tuesday, May 10, 2016

DEALING WITH THE WAR WITHIN (Part 2)



Dealing with the War within (Part 2)



There other devil in this whole scenario is a mixture of competition & fear. When we are competing with others we don’t trust our own potential. The common fear is of being different, doing something else, and what if we fail after doing something different. 

I was there, everyone around me was talking about a certain class and I thought that I too must do it. But I was feeling little heavy about the same. I was in a conflictual universe.  I was aware of something but blocking my awareness, which was creating a lot of dis ease in me.

I started off by asking myself some questions;
Do I really want to do this?
Answer: May be at some point but with ease.

Then What is this? What is that I'm not aware of here?
What awareness am I refusing?

Sometimes we avoid the awareness because it does not fit in with our definition of being good. And since childhood we all have been asked to be good, and being good becomes more important than doing what is true to us.

There were 2 things that came out of it.

1) I realized that one of the reasons I wanted to do the class was I did not want to be left behind. The only reason I was choosing it was because of competition because in our childhood we are always told, "look at X,Y, Z what they have achieved”, and since then we cut off our own reality, what we want, to looking at others and mimicking them. That moment I knew one of the reasons I was choosing the class was because I did not want to come last, I wanted to be like the others and not be left behind. I was worried that everybody else would go ahead achieve more, but then I was doing competition there. I have to be true to me, not what everyone else is doing.


 2) But the feeling of the class still lingered on. And the next realization hit me. The class at this time was half priced. So doing it now meant that it would be way cheaper, and yes most of us will think that if you are doing it anyway at some point might as well do it now when its half the price. Right? Wrong. 
When we are doing it from that point of view we believe in lack, and I was functioning from lack, especially when you want to do other things but you choose this only because of money.

Ask : If money was not the problem what would I choose?

And yes, I got the awareness that I would choose more ease with this class, I would rather do the classes I have been wanting to do and not get caught up in competing with others or the enticement of half price. 

Society, people around us and our own judgments, at times make it so difficult us to choose for our self, what would contribute to our life. But in order to be happy and fulfilled we have to start choosing what is true for us. 

It is also about choosing for the day for the moment. No choice is wrong.
Who said I have to have only one choice. One day I can choose something and another day I can choose something else there is no right no wrong

Have fun with creating your life that is true for you

~ Be You Be True Be Awesome

~ Storyteller - Aarti Asrani

Tuesday, May 3, 2016

DEALING WITH THE WAR WITHIN (Part 1)








DEALING WITH THE WAR WITHIN (Part 1)


This one is especially for the ones confused with life? What jobs to take? Decisions to make? Paths to choose? This or that? Follow the crowd or make my own path?

To narrate my own short fable. I have always been the kind of person who has loved to explore a lot of things in life. Entrepreneurship is in me, and I want to know everything, learn everything be good at everything, so much so that I would often get confused about where to start.

Alongside that, I also got caught up in time.  When will this happen? When will I finish this that?

I made ideas, plans, did research and just doing all that itself, I got so deep into it, that by the end, I was bored, and ready to start something new.

Does it sound familiar? Then keep reading

I don’t know how many of you are out there, who just love to do so many many things and are flowing with ideas all the time. I am just like you.

I was always told, "you can’t stick to one thing, you keep jumping onto another", in my defence,  I just love exploring.  I have to have many things to do, or else I’m bored.

However. The idea of this article is not just to tell you about me, but to tell you how I was able to challenge the confusions and contradictions and what is it that truly helped me channelize all this productively.

The 1st question that comes to my mind when the entire world is telling you that you are wrong is to ask yourself

What is right about me that I’m not getting?

It is a question that you must ask everyday, to get out of wrongness, the judgment and all the places you put yourself down.

There will be many people out there who will not support you with what you are doing, some of them will do it out of concern, some jealousy and some just to prove their point of view, however it is important to listen to your inner voice and ask,  "What is right about me that I’m not getting?" the universe answers.

The second step was that I looked at all my options. When you have 100 s of things on your platter that you would like to explore you should ask yourself.

How many of these are mine? and how many borrowed?

You see , we all are very potent beings and we keep on picking up from others what even they like to do. So for example, I have a group of friends doing a certain class or taking up a certain job I too probably will be inclined to do that, but it is important to stop there and ask.

Is this something I want to do? or somebody else?

Now that, that is taken care of and say 50 of them are still yours, the confusion is where to start? when will all of this happen?

Everything has its own place, asking what needs my attention today? what would create value today/now? what would be a contribution to me today? are some of the questions you can ask. This will help you prioritise and get going.

When we don't prioritise, it often happens that, even though we are so creative and have tons of things to do at the beginning of the day, we get nowhere and nothing is done at the end. This is simply because we want to do it all and are just grappling with time and trying to do everything. Hence asking a question like, What needs my attention today/now? will give you an insight about where to begin and the energy will continue to flow from there.

Try it! it might just work.

Leaving you with these few questions. Until next week.

~ Be You Be True Be Awesome
~ Storyteller - Aarti Asrani